'cause we're human

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No one wants to lead an unhappy life. We all want our friends and family to surround and comfort us in good times and bad. And so life goes on. There are moments which we cherish and bring us joy. Then again, the same lot suddenly decide to let go of you.

Whenever such a situation arises, all your philosophical gurus have loads of gyaan to share. They say that the relationship was cut because the "role of that person in your life has ended and it's time to make room for new ones". But what about all the memories left behind? It's definitely not easy to erase all that in a flash. The process is lengthy and not to mention utterly taxing on you and others around you. After seeing a lot in your life, you do get cynical at some point. The ray of hope that keeps you going diminishes without letting you see the horizon. Testing times like these are a part of everyone's life; though we may not have the same reasons.

So, how do you cope? Well, here a few steps which have helped me in the toughest of times.

  • Avoid comparisons and copying. We're all gifted to be unique and that's the way we should be
  • Try not to listen to too many things (I know am contradicting myself to certain extent by saying this :P)
  • Revenge really is not an option/answer. Instead, have a talk with him/her. I do believe we are in a time where a sense of gratitude is understood only by being explicit
  • Have a stable mind. If the person who has hurt you so badly feels even a third of your pain, things will be fine
  • Distractions might help upto a certain extent and there's no other better way than to pursue your passion

As I've mentioned previously, each of varies and our thought process and there definitely is a lot to say on this regard. But the ultimatum is that it's all in the mind. No matter who tells you what, unless you've the will to turn them into reality, there's no solution. Believe me, I've been there more times than one. 

P.S: If you're reading this and have an opinion, please share it. It may help someone in distress. And is somewhere at some point you've hurt a person, apologize and set things straight.




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